Gay It Forward


That I am gay is irrelevant to my blogs and pop culture perspective 99% of the time. Until it isn’t.

There have been several hot button political issues, people and songs in the spotlight recently, and due to the frequent nature of inquiries directed my way, I thought it was time to address them all. Here and now. Why the hell not? I rarely delve into the personal, but I’m feeling particularly snarky and honest today.

Question 1:
Are you getting married now that it is legal in California?

Answer:
Perhaps. We’ve been together for over 11 years, and don’t want to get married just because we can. That being said, I cried when I saw this video of Ellen & Portia. So beautiful.

Political side note: please vote No on Prop 8 if you are a registered voter in the state of CA.  You may not know me personally, but why deny me the opportunity to finally marry the woman who shares my heart?

Question 2:
What do you think of the song “I Kissed a Girl” by Katy Perry?

Answer:
In college we had a term for what she is boasting about – LUG (lesbian until graduation).  It has become as common as the Freshman 15. Yawn. Although I will admit that the damn song is quite catchy.

Question 3:
Why don’t you write about Lindsay Lohan & Samantha Ronson?

Answer:
For the same reason you will never see me discuss hotel heiresses and the like; because I do not cover celebrity gossip, nor do I have any interest in perpetuating rumors about people. There are plenty of other sites out there to satiate such curiosities.

Question 4:
What do you think about Sarah Palin?

Answer:
As if you have to ask. Although her official stance on gay marriage and benefits for same-sex couples is vague at best, I’m not an idiot. She and McCain will eviscerate the path which people like Ellen and Bill Clinton paved for so many.  And don’t get me started with Palin’s offensive and egregious views on myriad other issues. This is not a political blog, so I’ll stop there.

So there you have it, a completely tangential entry which I’m sure I’ll regret in retrospect.

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Digital Distribution & Music Loyalties: Matt Nathanson Testifies at Congress


On Tuesday in Washington, Internet radio royalties were the topic at hand during a session of Congress, at the U.S. Senate Committee on the Judiciary for a hearing titled “Music and Radio in the 21st Century: Assuring Fair Rates and Rules Across Platforms.” Senator Dianne Feinstein oversaw the hearing, and both
Matt Nathanson and Five for Fighting’s John Ondrasik testified, as well as Pandora President/CEO Joe Kennedy.

Here is a brief video of Matt discussing his perspective beforehand.

Given that Matt is a good friend and I’ve watched his amazing career grow from our dorm room to the national stage, I am obviously biased in one direction. Here is his eloquent testimony:

Thank you for the opportunity to speak with you today about the importance of Internet radio and Internet music to my career and my life.

My name is Matt Nathanson. I am an ASCAP-affiliated songwriter and I have recorded eight albums (including one on a major label, one on an independent label and several that were self-funded). I have played shows for free and for money; I have opened for other bands in half-empty nightclubs; and I have played coffee houses nationwide. Now my music is heard on television shows like Private Practice and Scrubs and I sell out shows across the country at venues like the Warfield Theatre in San Francisco, the Nokia Theatre in New York, and the 9:30 Club here in Washington, D.C.

I have tens of thousands of friends on MySpace, tens of thousands of fans on my email list, and my latest CD, Some Mad Hope on Vanguard Records, has, to date, sold 72,000 copies. My latest single is played dozens of times each week on radio stations nationwide, and I very much appreciate all that Congress does to support creators and protect copyright. But occasionally the pendulum swings too far in one direction, and when that occurs it is important that Congress re-balances.

For decades there has been a tight bottleneck in the music industry that meant only a few recording artists could succeed and most would fail. This was not caused by devious people, but was simply a fact: a handful of major recording companies, CD distributors and broadcasters collectively controlled an extraordinary share of the radio airwaves and retail shelf space. A small selection of artists benefited from extraordinary investment from that group and succeeded on a grand scale. Most artists received little or no investment, and the results were unsurprising: the small group of artists captured an extraordinary share of the market and the large mass of artists divided the remainder.

But recently the bottleneck has been exploded. In retail, Amazon.com, iTunes and CD Baby have unlimited shelf space and can present to each consumer the very types of music – including new music – that a customer is likely to enjoy. As a result, the customer buys more music from a dramatically broader group of artists, and the big winner is independent artists and labels.

In radio, the bottleneck was exploded by RealNetworks, Pandora, Yahoo! and SomaFM, which perform the songs of several thousand of artists each week, rather than the several dozen that are typically played by a broadcast station. With unlimited channels, these radio services can also tailor their programming to individual tastes and again, the result is that more fans hear more new music, and they buy it, and they go to our MySpace pages, and they come to our shows. I am proof that today’s working professional musician artist can make a very good living without a major label contract or a Top 10 hit. I could not have done this without the Internet- including Internet radio and Internet retail.

I am here today for a very simple reason – because it is in this Committee’s power and this Congress’s power to protect one of the mediums that has enabled me to have a career in music.

Some naysayers have suggested that Internet Radio is not promotional, that only terrestrial radio repeating the same songs over-and-over again helps artists. That is flat out wrong. i have had hundreds of fans send me emails and approached me at shows and say “I heard you first on Pandora or Rhapsody and now I’ve bought a CD or downloaded you on iTunes and I’m here at your show.” Internet radio should absolutely pay artists royalties, but artists also recognize that the value flows both ways.

I am not a lawyer or a major label executive or an Internet company CEO, but i am a college graduate and one thing is crystal clear. When a song I write is played on broadcast, satellite or Internet radio, they pay me an amount which is reasonably related to their revenue. Higher revenue stations pay a bit more; smaller stations and services pay a bit less. But when a song that I perform is played, broadcast radio pays me nothing; satellite radio pays me a reasonable royalty that when combined with other artist payments effectively equals 6% of its revenue; but Internet radio services pay me and other artists a per-song fee that is unrelated to the revenue of the service, which when combined with other artist payments effectively equals 30 or 40 or 70 percent of their revenue or more.

It is wrong that the smallest industry, which plays the most music by independent artists and labels, pays disproportionately high royalties, while broadcasters pay nothing. I like that Internet radio pays me, but if the royalties are disproportionate to the medium, that will end up doing in internet radio and cut off a crucial avenue for independent artists and their success…

I am a successful singer-songwriter, who is fortunate enough to make a living doing what I love. Internet radio has helped me to broaden my fan base immensely. They have helped me spread the word and continue to find an audience that supports me. Pandora, Rhapsody and MySpace have introduced me to millions of listeners and helped me sell thousands of albums and thousands of tickets. Please level the playing field for Internet radio; please protect the next generation of artists.

Thank you for inviting me to testify and for listening to me today.”

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Smart, Political and Serial


This weekend I devoured the first three of the Ex Machina comic book series. This morning I woke up next to Volume 3 on the bed exactly where I fell asleep reading it, and smiled with the thought of so many young kids for whom that is ritual and familiar. It was a first for me, and I’m loving it.

It was a pleasant surprise to find that gay marriage is one of the storylines in Ex Machina. The early volumes were written several years ago, even before it became legal the first time in California. Writer Brian K. Vaughan has infused this superhero series with several other hot-button political issues, as well as 9/11 references (handled quite appropriately and with respect).

So far I only have 5 volumes, but hope to at least read, if not own, the other 30 at some point soon.

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History in the Making: June 17, 2008


Tonight we sit on the precipice of history. All of us.

In May, the CA Supreme Court ruled that all Californians have the freedom to marry. Californians, human beings, people in love. Legally recognized and official freedom.

You may not agree with the new law, but I guarantee that tomorrow will become a part of U.S. history.  The date June 17, 2008 will be included in the textbooks of the next generation and beyond, regardless of the outcome from the ballot measure to overturn it in November.

I am overcome with emotion and pride right now; proud to be an openly gay American and very happy to have been raised and live in California. [If this is the first time you've visited this site, here are my initial thoughts about this state of change.]

That our nation is seemingly about to elect an African American candidate signals an obvious shift. That the Republican governor of this state recognizes that gay marriage will boost the economy is a surprising step in the right direction. That I can legally marry the love of my life is something I never imagined I’d have the opportunity to do.

I have never fought or asked for special rights. I was brought up to believe in equality across the board and without question, and now that has transformed from a pipe dream into reality.

Love is in the air, indeed. Congratulations to everyone who will be getting married, now that they can.

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It’s Personal, It’s Political, and Now It’s Legal


Before I begin…a polite request.

Just as I choose to click away rather than respond when I strongly disagree with someone’s written opinion, I hope you do the same. If you leave an offensive comment or personal attack, I will not approve or post it. That is my prerogative as the owner of this site. There are plenty of other venues for you to share those sentiments, but not in my house. 

And now, back to regularly scheduled programming.

I am:

  • A woman
  • A daughter
  • A sister
  • An aunt
  • A homeowner
  • A taxpayer
  • A co-worker
  • A college graduate
  • A pet owner
  • A bad cook
  • A blogger

I also happen to be a lesbian in an 11 year relationship, but that fact is certainly not the most important or interesting thing about me. My orientation has nothing to do with the content of my blogs, but today’s historical CA Supreme Court ruling affects me and I am compelled to write about the significance.

My
partner is my family; my life and my wife (in every fathomable way
except for the certificate). We are so normal, we’re almost boring.
There is tremendous mutual love and respect, which I believe are two
of the most essential tenets to a successful and healthy marriage. We are very fortunate that all that we are lacking in life is an official piece of paper.


But let’s start with the obvious question, and one that was asked of me all day long via IM, email, text messages and phone calls. No, we will not be running to City Hall or an altar of any kind. Four years ago, when there was a brief window of opportunity to get hitched in San Francisco, we declined to do so as well. We are thrilled that the ban was lifted today, but our reasons for not getting married remain personal.


For every supportive friend and family member, there are thousands of naysayers out there who would rather see me dead than married. It is archaic and outrageous, but not surprising. I forced myself to stop reading comments on various news sites and blogs because the level of vitriol out there is very alarming and discouraging.

I am not naive; I realize that we live in a relatively safe social bubble here in Northern California. I’m very aware of that fact whenever and wherever I travel, especially to visit family in Georgia, South America and even the central coast of this very state. I also happen to live and work in a fairly red county, but frankly, my sexuality is immaterial no matter where I am. 

We are not politically active or out there, and we’re also not interested in public displays of affection. Yet I find myself being cautious and cognizant not to draw unwanted attention just about anywhere outside of the Bay Area; that I have to worry about my personal safety just because of who I am or perceived to be is frustrating yet necessary. At least for now.

Am
I confident that this new ruling will stick? Not entirely. This issue
will once again fall into the hands of voters come November, and the
track record isn’t exactly stellar. That the Terminator is upholding
and respects the court’s decision is a pleasant surprise. And I’ve
always been a fan of Mayor Newsom. This will forever be associated with
his political career, and he continues to be a refreshing, bold
politician without fear of stigma; he is now the face of equality, a forerunner in the ongoing battle for basic human rights.


A surprising number of my regular readers and blog friends are conservative and/or Republican men. I have found that to be because we speak the same pop culture language; we share a love of sci-fi and superheroes, technology, action/adventure movies and sports. And for the most part, our voting proclivities are a non-issue. If anything, I feel that some are less apt to post negative gay statements and use stereotypes because they know and respect me. I frequent blogs with similar content, and have only taken offense to ignorant comments left by strangers on their sites. Again, I try to take the high road by not responding to those inflammatory remarks (especially when they’re not posted on mine).

I hope that at some point in my lifetime, the nation will look back upon the ridiculous defense of marriage with the same shame and outrage that we do now when we think about segregation. In the meantime, I will continue to live my very normal life, but with a spring in my step fueled by new optimism for an improved social climate.

I apologize for the rambling nature of this post. Sometimes I need to just write from the heart, and do so without filter or concern for structure.

Thanks for reading. I will return to covering a much more comfortable subject later tonight: Lost.

Have a good evening.

- Jo

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Films About War: Support or Avoid?


We almost went to see Stop-Loss this weekend, but didn’t. We also intended to see the following films in the theater, but will rent them instead:

  • Grace is Gone
  • In the Valley of Elah
  • The Kingdom
  • Lions for Lambs
  • Rendition

None of the movies listed above have done well at the box-office, and people may very well be staying away due to the current political climate and war. I do think that there is something to be said about watching those films in the comfort of your own home. However, my decision to wait and rent is not political; regardless of my voting proclivities or opinion about the war in Iraq, these types of movies simply does not rank high on my list of favorite genres.

We did go see Charlie Wilson’s War, but that was much lighter fare than those above; more of a farce and character-heavy piece, and not a very successful one at that.

When I was younger, my vision of war was formed by films like M*A*S*H and Rambo. And in college, I had to compare Apocalypse Now to Joseph Conrad’s The Heart of Darkness. Now THAT was quite an assignment…I think I got an A-.

I don’t really have a favorite war movie, but I suppose a contemporary choice would be Three Kings. I would count both of Spielberg’s toward the top (Schindler’s List and Saving Private Ryan), as well as The Bridge on the River Kwai. My choices from the 80′s include Born on the 4th of July, Casualties of War and Platoon. On a somewhat cinematically cheesy level, I have to admit that I also loved both The Last of the Mohicans and Dances with Wolves. But my true guilty pleasure for this genre is G.I. Jane; don’t judge me…you can’t flip past the one-armed push-up scene either. I’ll take bald badass Demi over psychotic break bald Britney any day.

I digress. And we’re back.

There have been very few films about war which I really disliked; Life is Beautiful and Cold Mountain are two of them.

Do you tend to support/attend movies about war? Which are your favorites?

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